Everything I Know

I’ve always wanted to do one of these reflections but I tend to tell myself, “Everyone already knows what I know.”

Well, guess what? They don’t!!

Or they do, but these are still beautiful reminders and perspectives. So if nothing else, I hope this brings us closer together through our shared wisdom.

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1. Happiness is overrated. Happiness is fleeting - it’s in a moment. JOY is in the process or journey. (Childbirth as an example: it’s SO hard and painful, but with overwhelming joy throughout and at the end of)

    

2. You can have the community / friends / relationships you’re craving. You just have to brave enough to create it. (P.S. everyone else wants this too)

    

3. When you’re uncomfortable or sensing something uneasy - those are moments of clarity and growth. Look for the lesson. 

    

4. Outgrowing friendships is normal. Sometimes it’s sad, and sometimes it’s not. You can honor and be grateful for how the friendship supported and served you at a time AND let it go.

    

5. Confidence is an ACTION word. It comes from doing something courageous. You won’t have confidence until you DO THE DAMN THING!

    

6. If you want a different life, you have to go against the grain.

    

7. We tend to make things harder than they need to be. I’ll be asking myself in my 37th year: Can I make it easier?

    

8. It’s never too late to do anything. 

    

9. We all experience self-doubt (every. single. person.). Knowing your values and having a vision helps immensely. 

    

10. Trust that you know what’s the correct thing to do and that you’ll know how to respond if it isn’t. You’ve figured out every thing else in your life up until this point.

     

11. Moving your body can solve 95% of your mental and emotional challenges.

     

12. The world needs more people doing things that light them up. What lights you up?

     

13. You need to be open enough to receive what the Universe is sending you. 

     

14. Everyone is doing their GD best. Give everyone the benefit of the doubt and assume goodwill. 

     

15. Pulling out silver hairs only makes new ones grow back crazier.

     

16. If you’re thinking about someone, TELL THEM! Send them a text or a voice note. Reach out. Stay in touch. Connect!

     

17. The American Dream is a myth and it’s unattainable in the 21st Century. How many of your values actually align with “The American Dream?”

     

18. Those who who find the most meaning and success don’t climb. They dig. They go looking inside of themselves. 

     

19. The best life is created, not lived.

     

20. Every single thing you purchase you’re going to have to get rid of in one way or another. Make sure that purchase is worth alllll the energy it will take to get rid of.

     

21. Life is meaningless - we MAKE meaning out of it.

     

22. People can choose to change when they are exposed to the truth.

     

23. Complaining reveals what people care about. Listen for the commitment embedded in their (or your!) complaint.

     

24. You’ll be better off if you stop eating things from a package.

     

25. Take accountability for your mistakes. Don’t blame others. You can only work on you.

     

26. Traveling makes you richer. You don’t even have to go far!

     

27. Your kids are so much more resilient and capable than you realize.

     

28. Don't be afraid of what others think of you - they’re most likely worrying about what others think of them.

     

29. Home is a feeling and people, not a place. (My kids think we own 12 homes we stayed in during our travels haha)

     

30. The Linear Life is a myth. The life I’m living is not the life I expected. IT’S BETTER!

     

31. 99% of people just want to feel seen, heard, and valued. Offer that to people.

     

32. Find people who are where you want to be or 5-10 steps ahead of you and ask them for advice.

     

33. Always act in a way that you’d be proud of on the other side.

     

34. If you focus on what you want, you will receive it. If you focus on what you don’t want, well…… Do you know what you ACTUALLY want?

     

35. Don’t let your worst critic live between your ears.

     

36. Gather with others. As often as you can. I hear a stat I am choosing to believe is accurate: If we found a cure for all the cancers, we would extend the average lifespan by 7 years. If we found a cure for loneliness, we’d extend it by 9.

     

37. Kindness is free.

Which of these hit you the hardest? I’d love to hear what resonated with you the most? I’d also love to know what advice you have for ME in my 37th year! Hit reply and let me know!

We ain’t gettin’ older, we’re only getting better!

xx

Alicia